Category Archives: Relationships

But the imaam doesn’t like me! (or does he?)

Q: Assalamualaikum: Can we pray behind an Imam who you feel does not like you or makes you uncomfortable? The reason why I ask is I went to a mosque near my work for Dhuhr prayer and the Imam of the mosque gives me a uncomfortable feeling when I see him. This is not the only time I felt this way, last ramadan I felt the same way when I would make eye contact with him after Jummah. My father has told me I shouldn’t pray behind someone if he makes you feel uncomfortable or if he doesn’t like you. So stopped going to that mosque. Recently, I have been trying to pray my five daily salahs so decided that I will go there Monday-Thursday. So I when I saw him today for Dhuhr I got that same feeling again. I know he has had some issues with my family in the past, but I feel like he is keeping a grudge against me due to that. All I want is to pray my salah and the mosque is the most convenient and best place to do that of course. Any advice will help. May Allah bless you and your family. Thank you. Also, please keep my name private.

Time: Thursday February 23, 2012 at 4:35 pm

A: Wa’Alaykum Salaam,

Leave your personal feelings aside. Generally, they are from the naafs and shaytan. As a male, your duty is to perform salah with jamaat (group.) Do that at the musjid that is closest to you and move on with your tasks of the day once this is accomplished. There was no need for you to make eye contact with anyone. Eye contact is not the purpose of you going to the musjid. Eye contact, handshakes etc. are generally by-the-way actions. Sadly, they appear to be becoming the central action of your worship. Go pray and then leave. The more you allow eye contact and handshake matters to come in the way, the more shaytan will inspire you with negativity (handshake was weak, handshake was not as smooth, handshake was not coupled with eye contact, etc!). These are all distractions from shaytan. You must learn the virtue of salah with jamat, perform it and move on with duties that would make you a better person.

Allah Certainly Knows Best. (dictated and published by admin as per imaam)

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L.O.V.E stands for (L=Loss, O=of, V=Valuable, E= Energy

Q: Salam,

I have read many of the questions and your answers to them… I find it really soothing…..but i am in stress. My Alevels exams are coming up ( in January) and then again i m in a relationship with a girl… After reading some of your relationship related answers i try to keep it very holy… I used to touch her before (just hold hands) but after reading frm this site i stopped…. Problem is her parents found out about our relationship and they are trying to seperate us from each other…..she doesnot want it neither do i…relationship mixed with the exams i m really stressd….. Your advices are very comforting ….pls advice me on this matter…. Is there any dua to comfort me at this time? Pls give me something…( i just hope my message is not informal . I mean no disrespect) thank you

Time: Sunday September 18, 2011 at 9:36 pm

A:    (by Br: Yassir Butt. Due to time constraints,from time to time we send questions to him for answering; we appreciate all that he does for the community.)

We were taught by our elders L.O.V.E stands for (L=Loss, O=of, V=Valuable, E= Energy) and it seems that is what your are doing to yourself.  You should be focusing on your A levels my naive friend.  Your relationship is invalid and is in direct violation of our islaimc ethical code (touching or no touching, good try though).  First ace your A levels to show you can do something than hopefully request your father to propose to her family and ask her hand in marriage (try to be a man for a change).  Do not fan the flames of desire unless you can extinguish them with the water of a halal relationship like marriage otherwise these flames have a tendency to burn down anything in their path.

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and after 23 years, this is my thanks!

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