Q assalam alaikum,
my sister-inlaw took khula from my brother and is refusing to return the mehr. What is the ruling regarding this matter?
Time: Wednesday January 18, 2012 at 5:29 am
A وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
Khula and mehr are seperate issues.
Mehr is her marital right that she has the right to accept and fully keep or give back in the amount she so wishers. Mehr cannot be taken away merely due to a divorce.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.
Islam In Action 
As-salaam-alaikum sister. I am surprised that a woman would ask this question on behalf of her brother because, to have a ‘khula’ the Imam or whomever gave the ‘khula’ has to have recognized some problem that has favored the girl not to have a divorce or ‘talaq’. There is a difference. Islam gives a woman the most rights to protect her and to provide for her and a loss in the pocketbook is not the same as matters of the loss in the heart. It is always more difficult for the woman in our society, unfortuneately, so sister, think that she deserves to have something to help her through the transition back in her life. The man usually bounces back more easily. Let it go, sister. Do not wish this to happen to any of your sisters, cousins, nieces, daughters because the money will not help them through the heartache. Be glad that both can move on with their lives before too much time passed or children involved. Money is not important but Mehr is given for a great purpose and yet, people say women in Islam have no rights. Thank Allah (swt) for providing for us. Alhamdu-lillah.