Category Archives: Minors

minor need not pay

Q: As Salaamu alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh Sheikh,
May Allah reward you for answering my questions always. Alhamdulillah! my question is; Is it obligatory to pay zakaat on the wealth of a minor even though Continue reading

keep a better name — forget over limit creativity

Q: Aslam Alaikum,
Insha allah i am having a girl baby by July. I wanted to know if the name we chose is islamic and has a good meaning. We selected the name Neha  which means Rain/Love. eventhough we selected this from a website which has names for muslims, i want to confirm this with an imam. Please advise if the name has a wholesome meaning or should we combine it with another name ? Your advise and input will be very helpful.
-Alla hafiz.
Time: Tuesday May 31, 2011 at 1:41 pm Continue reading

‘watching pornography’

Q1.What are the consequences of watching pornography and Ejaculating?

Time: Sunday November 29, 2009 at 1:06 am

Answers:

  • Viewing pornography reduces respect for men/woman/children. Makes you take human life for granted. Reduces your sensitivity towards healthy relationships. Reduces appreciation and respect of your body and the body of others. Pornography helps you lose your modesty. Pornographic viewers have to take part in filth to attain necessary gratification.
  • Pornography is a ‘movie’ production, its allurement is due to a false depiction of reality. The men and woman have cosmetics to enhance their image, at times causing naïve persons to want their wives/husbands to look and act the very same way. (Viewers don’t always say it, their behavior begins to demand it!) When viewers watch such filth and notice that they as well as their partners fail to perform ‘as seen on TV,’ it is not unusual for attraction, satisfaction,  etc. to gradually diminish. Continue reading
  • do not confuse circumcision with mutilation

    Q.

    Assalamu Alaikum-

    I need to know what the ruling of female circumcision is before I say things I may regret.  I believe I have already criticized and said things I regret about how female circumcision is not allowed because of what I have heard from ignorant people who present themselves knowledgeable.  Anyway, in my country, there is a wide practice of female circumcision.  What is the Islamic view, and specifically, what did the Allah Ta’aal command and his beloved (SAW) teach us?  Jazakalahu khair and may Allah subhana wataalah brighten your face in this world and in the hereafter!

    Time: Wednesday October 7, 2009 at 9:39 pm

    A. وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

    There is nothing in the Quran or Hadith that stipulates circumcision is obligatory upon female. However, multiple viewpoints exist pertaining to female circumcision. It is viewed from the range of preferable to obligatory (obligatory would NOT be defined as fard, but rather as a highly recommended practice). As the Hadith of Umm Atiyyah states “A woman used to perform circumcisions in Medinah. Rasulullah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) advised her: “Do not cut (so) severely as that is better for the woman and more desirable for the husband.”(Abu Dawood)

    Do not confuse matters:

    Many confuse female circumcision with female mutilation. Cutting to the extent of a nick, or a little more cannot be equated to the practice of female mutilation of genitalia. Mutilation is forbidden in Islam. The manner in which certain cultures adhere to this practice is not part of Islam. Some cultures adhere to this practice in such a manner that a woman becomes deprived of adult related pleasures later on in life. Islam does not want any person deprived of halal pleasures. People that practice female circumcision without care and consideration, lack the skill and qualification to do so are in essence practicing that which is abhorrent and brutal. To do so with the intent to limit the pleasure of woman with the fallacy that she is promiscuous by nature, and must therefore be removed of her rightful gratification is haram. Such and similar thinking remain baseless.

    No choice for men!

    Overall, men do not suffer such loss of pleasure. For boys it is obligatory to have them circumcised in their childhood. Here obligatory would be defined as a necessary function for boys.

    Choice for woman!

    Female (and male) circumcision is allowed by qualified professionals without elements of brutality. It must occur without it facilitating pain later in persons life. If this cannot be ensured, then it is would best to not have it done upon the female. The idea of this  sunnah for woman is not pain or discomfort to the rest of their lives! The same excuse would not apply towards males. They must make a greater effort to make this sunnah possible.

    For woman, if laws of a country oppose this practice for woman, laws of the country should be adhered to. Doing so would not be a sin.

    Allah Certainly Knows Best.

    May Allah (Subhanahu Wata’Ala) accept your daus for all muslims, Ameen.

    Obscene language

    Q. Can a person use profanity in Islamic speeches to prove a point? To gain ratings? to be viewed as liberal? To gain greater closeness to  youth? Can one use profanity in front of children?

    A. It is not befitting for a Muslim to use foul language,  be it in private or public, be it in front of children or adults. We lead by example of good deeds.

    Allah Certainly Knows best.

    ‘i love you’

    Q. should we practice saying: ‘I love you for Allah.’ More so, can I use it to kids I teach?

    A. To use this phrase upon people that would understand it as Muslims intend it would be a blessing. To use these blessed words upon a male or female in a context in which the words would be taken out of context would also be wrong.

    One should teach children about the importance of love and affection. You should teach them as to the proper usage of this Hadith and its relationship to creating mutual affection between peaceful people.

    Allah Certainly Knows Best.

    Minors and birth control in Islam

    Q. Can a minor be given birth control? Can a Muslim doctor ethically (under the rules of Islamic ethics) prescribe it to a minor? (one who is under 18) (Utah State  medical  student)

    Answer:

    If the minor is married according to the state and Islamic laws, and it would be legal to prescribe such medication, then it would be allowed.

    If the minor is using such measures to regulate an aspect of her health and is prescribed by the doctor for such purposes, she would be allowed to use ‘birth control pills.’ This would apply so long as an alternative does not exist.

    Under general circumstances, a woman should not be prescribed knowingly for the purposes of premarital relations. Should there be no adverse consequences for the Muslim doctors, doctors should hand such cases to  non-Muslim doctors.

    Allah Certainly Knows Best.

    leave me alone, i got things to do

    Assalaamu alaikum respected Imaam,
    My brother has seemed to gotten into the habit of blogging and has been over zealous about it, constantly checking if he has any comments and thinking about new posts to make.  He seems to be even getting anti-social.  What do we do to take him off this obsession?
    Jazakallah khair Imaam.

    Answer: Wa-alikum-us-salam respected member of the Ummah.  Our sincere prayer is that Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) reward you for your concern relating to your brother. Your caring and compassion Insah-Allah would be of benefit to your family as well as the Ummah at large, Ameen.

    The broad picture: (first things first)

    Alhamdulillah, Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) has created countless of things for benefit of humanity. However, anything done in excess causes harm. Harmful for the body is over eating. Hanging out too much with friends can cause a lapse in ones studies, or hinder other more critical responsibilities. Reading too much of anything, or for that matter, praying all the time at the expense of fulfilling other obligations can harm ones health or even ones religion. Islam being a religion of balance demands balance in all matters of a muslims life.

    About the ‘blogging ‘matter:

    Concerning the issue you have presented to us, we first realize that there are two sides to everything. Taking the assumption that what you saying is indeed the case. We must first acknowledge that blogging in itself is not a Haram, nor a problem. So long as blogging benefit humanity in a healthy manner and topics are not against the values of ones religion or against ones national values. For example, if your brother blogs on issues that create benefit to humanity, then Insha-Allah, Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) would reward him greatly.

    But naturally, this is not your concern. Your concern is the ‘zealous’ nature that has interrupted his healthy way of life. For this we are to offer steps you can utilize to understand the matter in a more superior manner whilst helping him reduce his addiction to blog postings. For starters, you must try and find out what has caused him to become this way. Shaytan is shrewd. Sometimes shaytan makes people do things to avoid other greater responsibilities, and thus traps a person to spend their energies in things like ‘blogging.’ Etc.

    Although you can help him, ideally, your brother must be the one that states some of the following:

    ‘I do have a problem, I cannot stop thinking about new topics and issues. My behavior is affecting my relationship with those that love me. I want Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala)to guide me in making choices that are good.’

    If one does not acknowledge that they have a problem, there is little you can do to help. As you may witness, lack of responsibility creates hostility and animosity between varying concerned members. This does not mean that you must ignore the issue. As Muslims, when we see wrong, or any form of excess, more so, unhealthy excesses with those we love, it becomes vital that we try and help such individuals. Help does not for us to make the matter worst. It means doing things in a manner that would remedy a poor situation..

    Here are some essential questions that need to be also answered:

    • One has to find out, if and when they are not blogging, do they get a lonely feeling, depression overcomes them, they feel empty and sad. When new topics are difficult to come by, does irritability, anger and despondency set in?
    • Does the person use this newly found habit to kill time, release stress, or a privilege they are abusing?
    • Can this habit be replaced by a more balanced deed? To do a better deed, one must find a better action to take part in. Or else the person can result is doing something more worst with their time, and that would not be good either! This is where your creativity can be of an asset to your family. Continue reading

    Can I Marry a Person Like Me?

    Q: Can a person who committed adultery for years (zina-premarital adult relations) marry a person who have never committed zina? How about i did not know if it was haram Imaam

    A. Permissibility does exist for a repented adulterer/adulteress to marry a chaste individual. Due to the disadvantage of experience and other possible promiscuities that unchaste people take part in, it would be better for an adulterer/adulteress to marry a person similar to ‘their type.’ A person should marry an individual who has committed similar acts of transgressions. The added condition should be that they both be compatible in that they want to change their lives for the better.
    For a Man or woman who is zina-oriented to marry chaste (non-zina) and honorable person intentionally would contribute bringing to the forefront that sexuality can be toyed with as humanity views fit. This is far from the Islamic teachings of morality. It is most ironic that at the time of marriage people seek chaste partners, partners whose life they can have an adverse affect upon, primarily as a result of premarital promiscuity.

    Shari’a does allow one to marry a woman of honor, and vice versa; when seeking compatibility, however, we think it is best you marry a ‘type’ similar to yours.

    Indeed Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) is most forgiving, forgiveness does not mean forgotten, nor does it mean that you are free from the residue of taint. So we hold, marry a person similar to your interests, while both of you continue seeking forgiveness and a better spiritual life.

    Allah certainly knows best.

    gay as in gay? or gay as in happy?

    Q. why cant Muslims have girlfriends and boyfriends? Can a Muslim person hang out with a gay man? sorry my questions are a little weird!!

    A. Your questions are not ‘weird.’ Your questions are product of our current environment. If you feel your environment is ‘weird,’ then you must change your social setting, so as to create thoughts that would promote greater awareness.

    A1) Muslims cannot have boyfriends and girlfriends because Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) forbids such relations. The Nobel Quran states:

    وَلَا تَقۡرَبُواْ ٱلزِّنَىٰٓ‌ۖ إِنَّهُ ۥ كَانَ فَـٰحِشَةً۬ وَسَآءَ سَبِيلاً۬

    And go not go near to fornication; surely it is an indecency and an evil way. 17:32

    As you can note, the Quran does not say, do not merely refrain from adultery. It states, do not ever get close to it. This means not having friends of the opposite gender, also we are to refrain from friends of the same gender that would entice you towards adultery, as well as anything that takes you towards any type of corruption. All things that take you to evil are forbidden in Islam. Islam wants us to have a healthy lifestyle. Having a carefree lifestyle, inclusive of girlfriend/boyfriend makes us prone to an illicit lifestyle, prone to affairs, diseases, disrespect of ourselves and future spouses, and contributes to living a life of disrespect.

    Living a chaste life brings value to self. For students, a chaste life helps to focus on studies, helps one get ahead with things that are necessary ourselves. Boyfriends/girlfriends distract us from successful worldly and religious activities.

    The Quran prohibits it, and as faithful Muslims, we should take our religion seriously enough to listen to the advice it commands upon us. Continue reading