Category Archives: Society

But the imaam doesn’t like me! (or does he?)

Q: Assalamualaikum: Can we pray behind an Imam who you feel does not like you or makes you uncomfortable? The reason why I ask is I went to a mosque near my work for Dhuhr prayer and the Imam of the mosque gives me a uncomfortable feeling when I see him. This is not the only time I felt this way, last ramadan I felt the same way when I would make eye contact with him after Jummah. My father has told me I shouldn’t pray behind someone if he makes you feel uncomfortable or if he doesn’t like you. So stopped going to that mosque. Recently, I have been trying to pray my five daily salahs so decided that I will go there Monday-Thursday. So I when I saw him today for Dhuhr I got that same feeling again. I know he has had some issues with my family in the past, but I feel like he is keeping a grudge against me due to that. All I want is to pray my salah and the mosque is the most convenient and best place to do that of course. Any advice will help. May Allah bless you and your family. Thank you. Also, please keep my name private.

Time: Thursday February 23, 2012 at 4:35 pm

A: Wa’Alaykum Salaam,

Leave your personal feelings aside. Generally, they are from the naafs and shaytan. As a male, your duty is to perform salah with jamaat (group.) Do that at the musjid that is closest to you and move on with your tasks of the day once this is accomplished. There was no need for you to make eye contact with anyone. Eye contact is not the purpose of you going to the musjid. Eye contact, handshakes etc. are generally by-the-way actions. Sadly, they appear to be becoming the central action of your worship. Go pray and then leave. The more you allow eye contact and handshake matters to come in the way, the more shaytan will inspire you with negativity (handshake was weak, handshake was not as smooth, handshake was not coupled with eye contact, etc!). These are all distractions from shaytan. You must learn the virtue of salah with jamat, perform it and move on with duties that would make you a better person.

Allah Certainly Knows Best. (dictated and published by admin as per imaam)

background alone cannot be grounds for refusal

Q: Salam alaykum,

I have a question in regards to the Islamic view of interracial marriage. I myself am Turkish-kurd and the person I want to be-wed is of Lebanese origin. Continue reading

do not reduce the merit of your fast

Q: Salaam ul aykum Imam,

One of the community elders is having an Eid party of theirs tomorrow night at a church. I’m not sure if it is the hall within the church or if it is the entire church Continue reading

is there proof

Q: I’ve been reading your blog for several months now.  I’m interested in the differences between Islam and cultural practices that may not actually have roots in Islam. Sometimes, things are said and done that are supposed to be Islamic but seem, to me as an outsider, to be more cultural.  I’m curious about Continue reading


Q: Salam
please excuse my inconvenience I always think of these Question’s  in my head when ever I see a Muslim women
1) why do muslim’s  girls wear hijab? 2) Why is it important to wear hijab? 3) Isn’t there a choice if you want to wear or not?  4) Why do some muslim women’s cover their all boby and face and just leave their eyes and some other muslim women’s just cover their boby and head but not their face? WHY
Time: Friday March 25, 2011 at 8:10 pm Continue reading

we all have our faults. ‘Hate the sin not the sinner.’

Q: As-Salaamu Alaikom Imam,
I have been trying to become  a better muslim sister by trying to surround myself with more muslim sister.  I use to have ton of non-Muslim friends, so I Continue reading

music video (a little too graphic for Muslim likes)

Survey: (xxx,) I am a BYU student and I am doing a survey on music videos and Islam for one of my classes.  I have created a survey for people to take online.  It only 12 question it will take about 3 minutes.  I would greatly appreciate any of you taking the survey.  Here is the link to take the survey:


Thank you very much.

Time: Saturday March 19, 2011 at 3:20 pm Continue reading

our open policy always seeks out open minds

Q: Salam Alaikum
I am writing to humbly request your help in organizing a field trip to Khadeeja Mosque on Friday, March 4, 2011 inshallah.
I teach at Granger High School where we have just put up an association for the learning of Arabic Culture. The first purpose is to gather our Muslim students, but we can’t use any religious denomination in a school stting.
Part of the activities include visiting an Arabic exhibit at the U of U and continuing at the mosque the same day. The tentative schedule says we should be at the mosque between 1:00 and 1:30 PM. Also, it indicates that the bus should leave for Granger at 2:00 P.M.
Could you please tell me if this possible? We need to know in advance because we have to schedule the bus in advance.
Wassalam. Continue reading

brothers and sisters must remain brothers and sisters

Q: I have a son and daughter. I do not know what was in my daughters head but she did some haram things with her brother that is younger by 3 yreas. Does this haram action affect our nikah according to imaam shafee? me and my husband that is? (text) Continue reading

Thanks for what when you got no job?!

Q: I am told that to celebrate thanking is ok bcuz we celebrating the past years harvest. So if this is my intention can I do it? Can I have friends over to celebrate as Dawah? (text from 480 area code) Continue reading