background alone cannot be grounds for refusal

Q: Salam alaykum,

I have a question in regards to the Islamic view of interracial marriage. I myself am Turkish-kurd and the person I want to be-wed is of Lebanese origin. Alhamdulillah he is pious and I too am working on myself and therefore we want to do things the proper way and for him to come and ask for my hand. I knew it would be an issue and so I asked my brother if it would be okay (only because my father has passed on Allah yirhamu), he got aggressive called me horrific names and stated it was the worst thing I could ever do. He basically said that my family would deny me and that he forbade  such a thing. I’m confused and would greatly appreciate the Islamic view on this matter.

Thank you, and may Allah bless us in this world and the hereafter
Time: Thursday September 1, 2011 at 12:02 am

A: وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

May Allah (SWT) bless your father, Ameen.

You both wanting to do the correct thing remains important. This alone would bring you great reward.

Since you do not have a father and your brother has seemingly behaved rather erratically/irresponsibly, I would request you to take this matter with the person you intend to marry to a local respectable scholar that each of you trust. I would also request your brother to be present during the duration of this meeting to share his point of view.

If you feel that your current marital choices are worse than your current choice of marital partner, likewise if you feel that not having a father limits your marital options and you remain worse off coupled with a sense of you committing adultery, then in such a situation getting married to this person may prove better then living in sin.

Seek assistance from an in-house qualified experienced scholar.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

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