brothers and sisters must remain brothers and sisters

Q: I have a son and daughter. I do not know what was in my daughters head but she did some haram things with her brother that is younger by 3 yreas. Does this haram action affect our nikah according to imaam shafee? me and my husband that is? (text)

A: Under general conditions, your nikah is not affected by what your children voluntarily do to each other.

*Separate them till the matter is fully resolved. Try to protect your son by having open-door polices. Example: no more alone-time in the bedroom together, always have the door open when they in the room, etc. Have an open communication line that enables you to know what is going on in their lives.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.


2 responses to “brothers and sisters must remain brothers and sisters

  1. worried mother

    As-salaam-alaikum. I am very troubled by this situation of a daughter abusing a son 3 yrs younger. I am terribly concerned that the parent is only concerned about their own status as a couple; the real issue is the haram action taken by these kids (ages?) and that they should BOTH be taken to counselling outside of our community, psychological counselling, because incest is a terrible thing that can lead to many other problems for each in the future, or maybe it was an act of inappropiate touching and can lead to permescuity? Either case, the Imam should be careful to refer these cases to proper mental health professionals to help the aggresor and the victim. There is no stimga in seeking proper care for both of your children, as a matter of fact, I would think it is your duty to seek help where it best takes care of this problem. May Allah (swt) help you and give you strength with this matter. Ameen. Jazakullah-Khair

    • وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
      My task is not to open greater wounds. Although we do give advice from time to time, i am limited in that i must merely focus on what is asked of me. Sometimes saying to much can hurt or create greater problems. On such sensitive matters, i must tread with greater caution, since the matter deals with adults as well as children.
      As noted by you, the range of matters to the above case could be awful. Likewise, it could be a question to seek out my views to a given matter and posed as a tester. (This is the internet!) The motive of the question could be many, just as the responses could be many. As a response giver, i cannot over react, i must just deal with as it is asked of me.
      Fact: Your comment is appreciated and functions as a good ‘watchdog’ response. Keep them coming. May the Almighty bless you, Ameen.