Q: Asslamu Alykom,
I was born and raised Muslim. My parents may Allah (swt) bless them, taught me as much as they could about Islam. I wear Hijab, I don’t date, I stay away from many other sins. However recently, I have been having trouble with my prayer. I have not prayed in a while, and I am scared. I haven’t not been able to ask anyone for help because I am afraid they will judge me. I try to prayer all the 5 prayer, but many times I fail. I am scared because I know that if died this moment, I would be punished greatly in the grave and in the afterlife. I am sincerely asking for HELP. I want to know what I could do to start praying again. Please don’t not judge me. Right now as I am typing I am crying because I don’t know what to do. I want to know what I could do to avoid shayatan controlling.
Time: Sunday October 30, 2011 at 8:39 pm
A:وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
First off, I do not judge people. If Allah (SWT) exposed my sins to you sister, you would not ever look in my direction or care to even know of my existence. We all sin, the best of sinners are those that seek repentance (derived from hadith). For this I admire you. We are all in the same boat as it pertains to self rectification. This should be goal of every human.
First off, Allah (SWT) loves you, that is why He allows you to wear the Hijab. A special feat in our current times. When Allah (SWT) loves a person, Allah (SWT) allows for them to adorn His sunnah.
According to the Quran, salah is not just an important pillar, it prevents a person from perpetrating greater evils. Therefore, should you become continually negligent in your salah, chances are that you would involve yourself gradually in greater sins. E.g.: looking at haram, talking things that are always useless, consuming haram, deceiving people/governments, etc.
Allah (SWT) does not seek to punish anyone. Allah (SWT) is the Creator and Allah (SWT) wants the best for all. That is why He has established rules and regulations. Follow them and all your problems would gradually dissipate. Rest assured my sister, today you are not praying, it must not happen that you continue on this track; as Allah (SWT) states, evil people are to be with evil people. Should you continue on this pathway, Allah (SWT) would attract you to people like yourself; the outcome of this could be very devastating.—socially, relationally, etc
A tear shed for Allah (SWT) can extinguish miles of fire. Your tears are a good sign. Now continue your life by doing a makeup for missed prayers, pray on time and take up the challenge to be your very best.
Additionally, read this.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.