some may say you have gotten played

Q: I have recently got married to someone i have known for 5 years. After being married for 6 weeks i found out that he has a 1 year old child with another married woman. When this came out the womans husband left her and is giving her a divorce. My husband now says he wants to divorce me and marry that woman as he has a child with her. What is the right thing to do in this situation?

Time: Thursday January 12, 2012 at 5:15 pm

A: I am sorry to say, but this guy does not seem to be the brightest bulb on the tree. Ask yourself a simple question: is this the type of person i want to be with for the rest of my life? Does he qualify to be the father of my children? Is this the type of person that my children should be around? How can i be with a man that is getting another mans wife pregnant?!

If he has made a voluntary choice to be with a woman he has a child from, then in such a case, should you hold him back, it would be sad if he later places the burden on you for neglecting his child. You do not need to be emotionally blackmailed by anyone, more so a relational partner. Additionally, it must not occur that he stays with you and plays with her and attempts to water two gardens at the same time, as he has seemingly done so!

Make your decisions wisely as to your future.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

0 responses to “some may say you have gotten played

  1. worried mother

    As-salaam-alaikum sister. I am sorry for your husband’s deception and infidelity. Also, as Imam states, no one can make the decision for you but, value yourself. I think you deserve a better life with someone who would not cheat on you, lie to you and marriage is about trust, which has been broken. Be sure to get him to help you financially as you will be on your own but, sometimes a woman just needs to know that you are valued and you should be respected. Find comfort in your muslim sisters to get through this difficult time. May Allah (swt) give you strength. Ameen. Women have led armies in Islam, you can lead in your own life, Insha-Allah.