try your best, do the right thing then leave it to Allah (SWT)

Q: if a muslim girl marries a non beliver and her parents are helpless in front of her….what should be the attitude of people towards her parents?

A: If parents raised the child with good religious values, they have nothing to worry about, nor should they be helpless. People (outsiders) should not concern themselves with faults of others. We need to clean our own homes before we point towards the ills of others.
We should not be judgmental, we should advocate sympathy and give positive support to anyone in pain without patronizing an already adverse situation.

Allah certainly Knows Best.

2 responses to “try your best, do the right thing then leave it to Allah (SWT)

  1. As-salaam-alaikum. I feel that I need to practice what I preach. If I have taught my daughter that marrying a Muslim is absolute and most important in Islam and to us parents and she chooses to give up her faith and marry (this marriage is not halal and equivalent to zinnah, right?) for her personal desires then as a parent, I personally cannot be a part of her life. She chose her love interest over her parents that have cared for her for maybe 18 or more years so, there must be some sort of consequence for her bad decision. What I don’t understand is what do you mean by “helpless in front of her”? We parents should never be helpless to our children and if the parents are accepting this and providing a reception or anything then I would loose respect for them. I want my children to know how important it is to marry a Muslim and I don’t want them to think I would change my morals for them. These parents should think about the siblings too.
    May Allah (swt) guide her and them on the true path of Islam. I always think of Prophet Nuh (pbuh) having to deny his son on the Ark and Allah (swt) indicating basically he is no relations only believers are.

  2. Omar Masood MD

    Assalam O Alaikum,

    Today majority of mulims raise their children in front of TV, movies. We as parents do not practice Islam ourselves. What we value is when the child grows he should mary a rich / good looking muslim guy / gal. Whether the guy / gal practices islam or not it does not matter. Only thing that matter is that the person should have a rubber stamp of “I am muslim”.

    For 2-3 decades we do things which Allah and his prophets have asked us not to do. (Example – Actively taking pictures and posting them on Facebook – Even 2nd commandment says “Make No Images” Prophet Muhammad Salallho Ilahe wasallam warned us against pictures yet we come to Eid prayers & instead of listening to Imam we are more interested in taking pictures or making a video). Does this act and millions of similar acts invites Allah’s Mercy on us.

    Then after 2 decades of training when our children try to practice what they have been taught from media with the help of their parents and so called “Love” is driving them crazy and they want to get married the way they see it in movies – suddenly the parents start reminding them “They are muslims” or at lease have a rubber stamp of being a muslim.

    May Allah guide us. But we need to practice islam so that our children can learn islam.