sadaqatul fitr/wife/husband/unemployment

Q: As Salam Alaikum respectful Imam Sahab,
I have some questions about fitra which is due before eid prayers:
1. Who is responsible to pay fitra for a wife, her husband or herself?
2. If wife is paying all household expenses then whom should be paying her fitra herself or her husband?
3. Should a wife pay husband’s fitra if he is not working?
4. Is that a good demand from husband to ask wife to pay his fitra and debts?
Jazzak Allah Khairun
Time: Sunday August 7, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Answers:  وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

  1. Each adult is responsible for his/her own sadaqatul fitr. If the wife wishers to pay for her husband, she must do so with his consent. This applies both ways.
  2. A woman should not be paying all the household expenses. The household responsibility is that of the husband. If for some reason he cannot work and she is compelled to work, then and then only must she work. In either case, she would only be responsible for her personal Sadaqatul Fitr.
  3. If he has money, he must pay his own sadaqatul fitr. If you wish to pay for him and he accepts this offer, you may do so. (Not working in Islam does not mean poverty.)
  4. He cannot make such a demand in Islam. Each person is responsible for his sadaqatul fitra/debt.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

p.s. I think you have deeper issues that need to be resolved. Go to a good scholar that understands Islam, culture and western environment. Life if too precious to live in misery. May Allah (SWT) bless you and your family, Ameen.

4 responses to “sadaqatul fitr/wife/husband/unemployment

  1. As-salaam-alaikum. If wife does not work, then husband can pay? If she gets pocket money then she pays from that or Eid money? So, if husband is not working, this does not apply? Because, the man is supposed to support the family but, if the man is not and woman is compelled to work then it is okay? I do not understand your answer completely Imam. I also, as a parent, have to pay for my children, fitra, too, right? I hope Imam can elaborate this answer a bit. Ramadan Khareem.

    • wasalam,
      Read each line separately. It all adds up.
      Bottom line on the original query: if he has in excess of nisab on the morning of eid, he is liable for his own saqada-tul-fitr. If she wishers to pay it for him with his consent, she may do so.
      This goes both ways: men to woman, woman to men. Key is consent from the other when paying for another.
      (dictated by imaam)

  2. Thank you guys, both appreciate your help,

    There is another question about nisaab. If a person has large piece of land for about 20yrs, but does not want to sell, he does not try to find work instead borrows money from friends and not willing to support family tells them he has no money. Does his land counts towards the nisaab or not?? I think this is nisaab with Zakat due for years too besides other obligations……any thoughts?

    • Land alone does not imply that one is eligible to pay or not pay zakah. If this land is for investment purposes, then it would be necessary to pay zakah on it. If this land is for personal usage, then there would be no zakah on it. For instance, merely owning a home does not mean one needs to pay zakah on the home. However, if one has rented it out or purchased the property as part of an investment deal, then such property would be calculated as part of ones zakah.