Your father did good, you must continue

Q: Assalamualikum Imaam,
May Allah keep you in his peace and give you reward for all a single act you .
My father was passed away on 17th Jan , 2011 in a accident. He was in wudu , and going to do his salat al magrib. Imaam since he left, I saw him twice in dream. My first dream was that I saw he is sitting under tree, and that tree is from Jannah. and i am passing from there. He told me , where are you? I am waiting for you, and i said to him , ok baba i will come now. that was the fisrt dream i saw.
Second was , that he came to home, and i opened the door for him, and he said to me, I am goig for salat al magrib, , you get ready and im waiting for you.  thats all i saw.

Imaam , I know we all belong to Allah swt , and will be return to him, but the hard point is that my heart is beleving that he is gone. I want to cry , I cannot cry. but I do read quran, do ziker and surah Yasin for him.

Is there any other dua to make for him or for me , to make easy for him and easy for me.
May Allah reward you ,
Time: Saturday March 5, 2011 at 12:04 am

A: وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
May you be blessed for your patience. Your patience means a lot to Allah (SWT.) The most superior patience is the patience we show at the time of initial pain. (Hadith-paraphrased.) This dream indicates the good manners your father has taught you. Your patience benefits you and your father, so view this entire process as a blessing for the both of you, Ameen.
*Your father has passed away a possible shaheed (martyr.) As we are all aware, shaheed has many levels attributed to it. This alone should make you very happy.
*He wants you to do good deeds and keep up with good religious practices.
*Humans go through multiple cycles as it relates to dealing with grief. For some it is a denial of events, others suffer from a total numbness, anger, or despair. Accept your situation for what it is. Gradually the tears would flow, when this happens it would make things a lot easier for you. Do not rush the process. Allah (SWT) has a time for everything: we must accept our moments of joy as much as we must accept moments that do not always please us.
*Keep on doing the good you are doing. Do not overwhelm yourself. Merely also repeat, Allah hum-magfir lahum (oh Allah forgive them all.) This way you would be making a dua for your father and all those that have passed away and surround him. This dua would also assist in the elevation of his position, inshaAllah, ameen.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.

One response to “Your father did good, you must continue

  1. السلام عليكم شيخ
    As you said there are multiple levels of shaheed (Martyr)
    What makes a person a shaheed (martyr)?
    Are you allowed to wash a shaheed (Martyr)? If so in what stuation?