I am a muslim girl
my mamu lives in america
his daughter wanted to marry a non-muslim boy as she was not ready to marry anyone else but him so they gave in to her demands and married her to him
now she is married to tht boy and she still comes visit her parents and they r
acting normal to her
my question to u is tht what should be our reaction to her?
as she is our close relative so should we remain in contact with her or leave her?
wht should be our reaction to her non-muslim husband?
as we clearly know tht according to islam her nikkah to him is not valid and what is her status in the light of islam?
I hope to hear ur reply soon
Time: Wednesday January 5, 2011 at 1:57 am
A: وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
- Parents accepting their children being in a state of zina are just as sinful as the perpetrators of such actions.
- Your interaction with an open transgressor should always be limited. Supporting evil only gives encouragement to it. A polite ‘salam’ should be sufficient for deviants. Being too casual with her would possibly give her the idea that her poor behavior is accepted and part of Islam. This would most incorrect.
- Limit inviting her over to all public events, for it would send the wrong message to the younger members of the family. She must be told to come alone into the home if necessary, more so when the disbelieving male (husband) refuses to convert. This would be better for the youth of the family.
- She is old enough. You should not feel guilty if she chooses a pathway from Islam. Allah Guides whom He chooses.
- She is still viewed as a Muslim. Rejection of the laws of Nikah as articulated in the Quran (and hadith) can turn her into a disbeliever. (We do suggest you not provoke her to making comments that favor disbelief.)
- Male relatives can say hello to him from time to time, invite him to the religion and convey to him that which is correct in nature.
Kindly read this, resend your query if necessary.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.