Q: Asalmaualaikum. Imet you in the majid on friday. i was the guy inthe black shirt. i asked you for your email. My parents work a lot of hours. Sometime they have to work night shift. My elder sister took care of me. Now she is married and i take care of my younger sister. my thing is this. can i wash her when she needs to be washed or when my mom tell me to. you said something about awrah in the khutba. my q is from that topic khutba. Thank you. (email.)
A: وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
May Allah bless you for all the good you do. May the matters of your parents be that of ease and comfort, Ameen.
If a non-parent has to wash a child, then it would be best for a woman (prefarably a caring female family member) to wash your sister. Should this impossible, then note the following:
If the your sister is four or younger, you would be able to wash her. If she is above the age of four, then she must have something on her body, eg: shorts whilst being washed. She should not have herself fully exposed to you if she is above the age of four. Upon her reaching the Islamic age of seven, it would not be Islamically appropriate for you to bath/wash her. (see shami)
Due to matters of safety and concern, kindly share this posting of ours to your parents. Ask them to find out laws that pertain to this matter. We would not want you to be doing anything wrong, nor your parents contributing to anything wrong.
May you and your family always be blessed in every matter that is good, Ameen.
Allah Certainly Knows Best.