Ibn Hajjar Haytami’s list of violations. Things to make us all so much better

Shiek Ibn Hajjar Haytami’s list of violations that deal with one’s imaan — be it regarding the internal self or external self.

The above can be viewed in ‘azzawajir an iqtiraf al kabair.’ The intent of this list by the original author is to make Muslims acquire Taqwa and excel in them being their very best. Each day we would try to post an act from its original list so as to help ourselves refrain from essential wrongs.

Kindly sit each day for 5 minutes and reflect  upon a single point mentioned below. I am confident this list would change your life. It would make us all better people.

Hint: For each of the items listed, (list would grow each day for this section) ask yourself: do I have this element in my life? If so, to what extent? How can I reduce this poor quality? Piety is a pathway. Yes, you can.

  1. Associating partners with Allah (Aka: major shirk. Today ask yourself: who is Allah? what is my relationship with Allah in comparison to the one i love or intend to love? Who do i think more? Allah or that which Allah has created?)
  2. The lesser shirk of associating other with Allah and this is known as pride. (Doing good primarily for the purposes of showing off.
  3. Misplaced anger, cruelty, envy (in wrongful matters and upon innocent people)
  4. Arrogance, pride and conceit (Ask yourself, do i treat wealthy people different from poor people? Do i treat people that i want something from different from those that i feel are beneath me? Do i reject the truth? etc)
  5. Cheating (Do you lie that you had seen the item in the $1.99 rack when in reality it was in the $3.59 rack? Yes, we all like honesty, but how honest are we? Sit in a corner and ask yourself, what was my last lie? Was it really necessary? Or do i just have a bad habit that needs to be better monitored? Are you ready to have this lie exposed on the day of judgment?! If not, then its never to late to change)
  6. Hypocrisy (Do i make a claim of one thing, then act out in a manner contrary to my claim?  Am i lazy when i pray to my Allah? Am i hasty? Is fajr salah difficult for me to perform? Do i talk greatly of Allah and His Messenger (saw) but fail to act upon my talks and high horse comments?  Do i expect from others what i cannot deliver myself? Am i just a plain concealed hypocrite?)
  7. Trespassing the rights of others. (Each person has boundaries. Our duty is to respect each person we come into contact with. This is what we Muslims call human rights at its best. We usually hurt those that are closest to us — be they family, friends, employee, employer, etc. Ask yourself, whose feelings have i hurt lately? Even if we sometimes intend good, we must realize that doing good must be done in a good manner, or else we defeat the purpose of the good we are sometimes intending!)
  8. Due to pride, you stay away from others. (As if to say, I am better then you)
  9. To delve in mattes that does not concern you. (The best of Islam within a person is for her/im to leave out that which does not relate/matter/concern them. (Derived from hadith.) Even more terrible is when we make matters of others a point of discussion/argument in our lives! )
  10. Being avaricious — inclining oneself towards materialism. (Person being greedy purely for worldly related  matters. This greed is without reason or justification. It is greed for the sake of greed and possible corruption. We all may have elements of this adverse behavior. We should better monitor ourselves.)
  11. Fearing poverty (Rasulullah (SAW) made dua to be close to the poor on the day of Qiyamah. When we fear poverty or show contempt towards the poor, we are possibly  turning against a great portion of Allah’s creation that would attain paradise faster than ourselves! We must accept everything as being from Allah! Never fear anything but Him!)
  12. Anger (or showing displeasure) with that which Allah has destined for you.
  13. Admiring the wealthy and revering them as a result of their wealth. (Allah gives and distributes as He chooses. This should be our conviction. We should hold firm upon this belief. Have you ever frowned on this concept?! If so, then a reevaluation of ones Imaam must take place.)
  14. Mocking the poor as a result of their poverty (In your mind or you directly say to the poor person: you poor because you are _____________________   *fill in the adverse words (slurs) that were used upon them.* Always remember,  Allah gives as He chooses; we don’t have the right to pick on anyone or praise anyone for the worldly possessions they have!)
  15. Eagerness to hold on to one’s position. (Cannot let go even if more qualified person(s) exist and people want this new person instead of you, etc.)
  16. Competing with others for worldly (pleasures) delights and being arrogant (proud) in such matters. (My daughter has her wedding at the XXXXXXXX. My first car was a new red BMW; my child goes to Yale and yours is only at Utah state? Poor him/her!)
  17. Wearing clothing that is forbidden to impress fellow humans (men adorning silk in this world in exchange of the hereafter; men and woman purchasing clothing through interest transactions to impress fellow humans, woman adorning articles so as to have strangers give them a special look and in the process attaining the curse of Allah (SWT), etc., etc.)
  18. Compromising ones values/principles.(for fellow humans who are just as weak as you! Today it is one value lost, tomorrow it is your Imaan. Where does one stop! May Allah always save us, Ameen)
  19. Accepting praise for that which one does/did not do.
  20. Preoccupied with the sins of others and not one’s own wrongs.
  21. Forgetting the bounties Allah has given you (It is offensive that a person focuses on the bounties given to others. This is an insult to our imaan and the gifts given to us by Allah (SWT).
  22. Becoming a fanatic for yourself (or for the sake of just being a fanatic)
  23. Not being appreciative.
  24. Not Accepting fate.
  25. Refusing to take the rights of the Creator and His Commands seriously.
  26. Cynicism/jeering/mocking towards the servants of Allah, looking down and showing scorn towards them. (A great way to gain the curse of not only the pious,but the angels of Allah and Allah as well.)
  27. Following ones desires/whims and fancies and refuting/rejecting the truth.
  28. Plotting evil and being deceptive. (instead of being positive and using your energies wisely, you spend it upon avenues that are wasteful. What a shame.)
  29. Intending the pleasures of this world in-exchange of the Hereafter. (You like the wordy life and live in a manner as if the Hereafter is a joke! Irresponsible as to your obligations – be it family, employment, religion, or otherwise.)
  30. Belligerent in opposing the truth. (Also a sign of pride.)
  31. Possessing evil thoughts about fellow believers. (Evil thoughts erode positivity. We should use our energies wisely.)
  32. Rejecting truth when it opposes ones wishers or when it comes from a person we despise. (Why hurt yourself by disliking the good you are being guided towards! In other words, rejecting the good of the other is rejection of self. This is the high of absurdity!)
  33. Servant being content with committing  sin(s).
  34. Persisting (and insisting) in being disobedience.
  35. Loving to be praised with actions of obedience. (always ask, who am i doing it for and why?!)
  36. Being pleased with this worldly life and the heart being content with. (Instead of seeking the life of the hereafter.)
  37. Forgetting Allah the most lofty and the next world.
  38. Anger that is link to the ego and being vindictive and thereafter justifying ones wrong.
  39. Being safe in the plans of the Creator and thus continue to commit sins with reliance upon His Mercy. (This is the height of ingratitude.)
  40. Despairing in the Mercy of Allah.
  41. Having evil thoughts of Allah the Most High.
  42. Loss of hope in the Mercy of Allah.
  43. Learning sacred knowledge for worldly gain. (Doing religious services for worldly benefit, etc)
  44. Concealing Sacred knowledge.
  45. Not utilizing the knowledge one has attained (more so, not using the knowledge in the correct manner. To use knowledge in the correct manner is the distinguishing factor between humans and non-humans.)
  46. Making claims to knowledge, mastery of Quran, or anything that remain from the actions of worship. These claims being made out of pride (or to show you are better then the other person.)
  47. Loss of pious scholars or mocking the pious.
  48. Intentionally lying about the Creator and
  49. Intentionally lying about the Messenger of Allah. (To lie in general also gains the curse of the all that which is Noble. To lie about any prophet reaps loss. Lying about the prophet (SW) demands preparation of devastation. To say what He (SAW) did not say even if it sounds good also demeans ones position. A lie is a lie however you look at it)
  50. Establishing an evil action (and making people view it as religious action.)
  51. Letting go of the sunna. (Thinking low of those actions that a prophet had taken part in.)
  52. Denying destiny.
  53. Not fulfilling agreements. (Example, i am to clean the garage of Thursday and not doing so. I am to study on Saturday with you and not showing up. Promising to help a poor person and not helping, etc etc.)
  54. Loving oppressors or immoral persons without discrimination of their morality. (E.g. admiring transgressors is a sin.)
  55. Animosity towards good people for the good they do.
  56. Harming the friends of Allah and showing enmity towards them.
  57. Reviling destiny.
  58. Saying something that causes severe harm or extensive damage, something that angers Allah but the speaker pays little heed to such comments. (We must be cautious of what comes out of our mouths. They sometimes make us or break us.)
  59. Do be ungrateful to a person that has been good to you. (Being good to anyone does not mean that you must give up your values. The one that has done you an act of good should not demand that you do them a favor either. This too is a sin)
  60. Not sending salutations upon the Rasulullah (SAW) when his name is heard. (This is the height of selfishness. This is the height of ingratitude.)
  61. Hardness of the heart in such a manner that it would prevent feeding a poor person, for example;
  62. Being pleased to committing a sin (is sometimes a greater sin than committing a sin in itself.)
  63. Assisting anyone in committing any type of sin (is a sin in itself. For as long as the wrong doer commits the given wrong, the helper of the original sin would get a share of the sin.)
  64. Persisting upon wrongs and lewdness until people fear (you for) your evil.
  65. (does not fully apply)
  66. (Does not fully apply)
  67. Eating from gold and silver.
  68. Forgetting parts of the Quran or versus of its letters. (This is also a sign of Allah depriving one from His Mercy more if forgotten without a valid reason.)
  69. Arguing and tearing another’s words, disputing and arguing (for the purpose) of seeking to win and dominate in matters or the Book and religion.
  70. Defecating on pathways (roadways, street, sidewalks. We are humans, not untrained animals.)
  71. Not removing all the traces of urine from body and clothing. (As they say, do your thing fully, then exit. Do NOT leave a mess on yourself and the entire place, i.e.  floor, clothing, etc. Again, we are humans, not untrained animals.)
  72. Leaving out a wajib (necessary) action of whudu (ablution.)
  73. Leaving out a wajib (necessary) action of ghusal (bathing.)
  74. Disclosing ones nakedness without a need to do so, including entering a restroom without a covering.
  75. Having intercourse while she is on her menses.
  76. Intentionally not performing salah on its time.
  77. Deliberately delaying salah from its given time by either performing it sooner (or later then its given time) without a valid reason (like travel.) (This rule would apply more so when travel may prove dangerous, difficult, etc. Little splash of rain or few snow flakes does not justify advancing a prayer time for residences of a given city.)
  78. Sleeping on the roof that does not have secured edges. (In other words, do not place yourself in harms-way.)
  79. Leaving an obligatory aspect of prayer.
  80. Lengthening the hair with fake hair or having it done.
  81. Tattooing or having someone tattoo you. (both would get the sin, doer and the one done upon.)
  82. sharping the teeth or having it done.
  83. Plucking the eyebrows (the entire eyebrow) or facial hair (men) or having it done (by someone else.)
  84. Passing in front of a praying person that has placed a (sutra) barrier in front of himself. (To cut a person that is praying without a reason constitutes rudeness, sin, etc.)
  85. For people of a village or town or of its likeness to let go of performing fard salah in a group when conditions allow for it to be done (would be a sin). (If letting go of salah with jamat is a sin that applies for people in remote areas, (true) men residing in cities have no excuse in refusing to perform salah with jamat when able to do so!)
  86. (it is a sin) for the Imaam of the people to lead a people when they have a dislike for him.
  87. Severing a row. (Not completing the rows as recommended for prayer.)
  88. Not straightening the line (of prayer.)
  89. Getting ahead of the Imam in actions of prayer.
  90. Lifting ones eyes towards the sky when praying. (Allah is not limited to a given geographic location!)
  91. Turning in salah. (To turn the chest in salah.)
  92. Placing ones hands on the hips (whilst in salah.) Placing hands on the hips is a sign of arrogance, one should minimize this action.)
  93. Grave worship, (93-98 are clumped together)
  94. lighting lamps over them,
  95. viewing graves as idols,
  96. going around them,
  97. touching the graves (as if worshiping it) 
  98. performing prayers towards it (with intent of doing so.)
  99. Traveling alone (more so for a woman when immoralities may occur. Or for a man or woman when chances of harm can take place as a result of traveling alone.)
  100. (part or number 99)
  101. canceling a trip (or journey) or returning from one due to a bad omen (or bad luck)
  102. Letting go of the Jummah (Friday congregational prayer) without an excuse (even if one said that they are performing the afternoon prayer alone.)
  103. Stepping over the necks (shoulders of people) on the day of Jummah (to get to a desired spot.)
  104. Sitting in the middle of a circle (of people. We sit as part of the group, not as the center of attraction!)
  105. For a mature sane male to wear silk without a valid excuse (paraphrased.)
  106. A male wearing gold like that of a ring or wearing silver besides a ring. (it is forbidden for a man to wear gold, it is highly preferred for a man to not wear rings without valid reasoning. Somethings just look better on woman in todays time!)
  107. Men resembling woman in things that are specific to the characteristic of female, be it (imitating female) dress code, speech and its likeness, etc.
  108. A woman wearing a flimsy (thin) garment that conveys the shape of her body; inclining herself to others and making others incline to her.
  109. having ones pants, or clothing, turban (ends) longer than usually more so due to arrogance.
  110. To have a swaggering walk (the walk of some walk arrogance.)
  111. Dying the beard or hair black for non military purpose or its likeness. (kindly do not get exited with the word military. All cultures seem to seek a defense team. On our site we prefer peace over all types of violence as a first choice towards any resolution. Likewise, it is our contention that true Islamic belief also sanctions such thinking.)
  112. For person to say after the rain, The coming of this rain is due to a particular star (paraphrased.) {we cannot be superstitious in our matters. Another example of a sin: ‘the black dog/cat representative an evil omen!’)
  113. Scratching, (stabbing, piercing, clawing) or slapping once cheeks and doing its likeness. (When person passes away.)
  114. ripping (tearing) ones collar (or clothing.)
  115. Cries of complain
  116. listening to people cry (and you being happy with their crying, even though you may not show it etc.)
  117. Shaving off or pulling out ones hair (at the funeral.)
  118. Cries of calamity or disaster in moments of affliction/pain/anguish.
  119. Breaking the bones of the deceased.
  120. Sitting on graves.
  121. praying on graves or lighting lamps upon them.
  122. For woman to visit graves.
  123. woman following the janaza (funeral)
  124. Aruqiya (amulet): usage of sacred words of Allah in a manner that violates his commands. Also usage of the words of Allah to exploit fellow humans.  Doing so is a sin!
  125. Attaching an amulet (upon the body with belief that the amulet cures you!)
  126. Disliking to meet Allah the Most lofty.
  127. not paying zakat (worse is to pay it and seek praise for it, tell people who you gave it to, give with prime intent to take benefit form it, etc.)
  128. Delaying the payment of zakat after its due date without a valid excuse (this is also a type of cheating towards the poor.)
  129. A creditor who knows that his debtor cannot pay and yet makes matters difficult or tauts or restricts the person. (In other words, if Allah has given you the ability to help people, do not wipe out your reward by making claim of it, bragging about it, or seeking your payment from them when you know they are undergoing hardship.)
  130. Mistrust in dispensing of charity funds.
  131. Receiving unislamic taxes or being part of it.
  132. Wealthy person asking for zakat (or charity) out of sheer greed.
  133. Asking for charity in such a manner (and to such an extent) that it hurts the one you are asking.
  134. Preventing giving charity to a relative that is eligible to receive it;at the same time one does not have an excuse to not give it to them (paraphrased for ease)
  135. Reminding people of your generosity towards them.
  136. Refusing to give excess water to a person in need.
  137. For an asking person to ask for a thing other than Jannah (paradise) with invoking the words: For the pleasure of Allah. (in other words, the best thing a person can ask for is paradise. We must make an effort to abstain from using the words of Allah in vain.)
  138. For a person to request anything other than Paradise with the words, ‘for the sake of Allah.’
  139. To prevent giving a person who asks for something in the name of Allah (and the person asking is genuine in their request/plea.)
  140. Not fasting (for even a single day) in Ramadhan.
  141. Breaking ones fast (without a valid reason.)
  142. Delaying a make up fast without an excuse.

Be nice to everyone you meet, they are fighting a battle you know nothing about

 

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4 responses to “Ibn Hajjar Haytami’s list of violations. Things to make us all so much better

  1. Thank you for publishing this list. I printed it at the Library, to keep it handy with the rest of my notes from the new Class For Converts, which I like to think of as Islam 101. JazakAllah Khair.

    HP

  2. Westerner comment: This list works for me and I am not of the Islamic faith. Just thinking of all the wasted energy some people place on the negative like judging, and trying to put on the act of being better than another tires me out. (sigh*) Just think if everyone followed this list…this world would be a better place. Thank you for publishing it.

  3. JazakAllahu khair, for this topic and this website!

  4. Reflecting upon these points really has me thinking. SubhanaAllah. This is very beneficial.