‘see u on facebook — even if its not ur pic’

Q: my husband has a a facebook account. He has other places he advertises himself too. Can a man add woman on his facebook? Their haram comments?  He says they are not locals.  it is ok? i am not happy about that. Am i right to be concerned?

A: Your husband’s behavior is repulsive. It is haram to display one self to attract members of the opposite gender in the manner you have described  — be it through facebook,  Myspace,  twitter,  texting, etc. The Quran not only prohibits zina, it also prohibits us relating to those avenues that facilitate getting close to it. Zina is haram, so are avenues that lead to them.

For him to display woman on his page promotes the loathsome state of his opinion regarding woman and self. For us to observe your claim of  his facebook page with woman on it calls for those woman that allow themselves to be displayed in such a manner as crude.

Your husband’s behavior is unislamic and frothed with that which is impermissible. You must ask him what is lacking in the marriage, so as to assist him in breaking away from such adverse habits.

Allah Certainly Knows Best.

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2 responses to “‘see u on facebook — even if its not ur pic’

  1. ASA,
    “For us to observe your claim of his facebook page with woman on it calls for those woman that allow themselves to be displayed in such a manner as crude.”
    Shouldn’t it be the man’s fault for being on there in the first place, when he’s married? It’s not those women who are committed to someone, but him who is. I’m not sure I understand the logic in blaming women who ARE on their to get someone, and someone whose on their and married. I’m sure it would be a different tune if it was a women who was doing this, so why’s it the wife whose “lacking” if her husband chooses to do something that’s haram?

  2. Brain Tingle

    Assalaam alaykum,
    Please observe the chain of “blame:”

    First paragraph of response:
    “Your husband’s behavior is repulsive.”

    Second paragraph of response:
    “For him to display woman on his page promotes the loathsome state of his opinion regarding woman and self.”

    Second sentence of second paragraph:
    the sentence you quoted re women.

    Third paragraph of response:
    “Your husband’s behavior is unislamic and frothed with that which is impermissible.”

    It’s 3-1 in favor of heaping blame upon the man in question, yet we still perceive this as the women being blamed? I don’t get it. As for “it’s not those women who are committed to someone,” are they not committed to Islamic manners regarding mahram and ghair-mahram communications? Is that commitment to Allah and His Rules not just as significant as this man’s commitment to Allah, his wife, and everything else?

    And how did you take “what is lacking in the marriage” to be equivalent to “it the wife whose “lacking””? Maybe that was a Freudian slip, or maybe you just didn’t read the answer carefully enough, or maybe you actually have a defensible point of view. Allah only knows. Your reasoning baffles me, because I actually had to reread the imam’s response after I read your comment, thinking he’d said something completely wacko.

    W alaikum salaam